I can’t claim to be a stay-at-home mom, because I’m only home 4-5 days a week. But I recognize the sacrifice stay-at-home moms make and I have a huge admiration for those of you who stay home 100% of the time. It is major dedication!
I work in a salon where I set my own schedule 2-3 days a week. Depending on the week, I work anywhere from 15-20 hours. I take appointments on Monday, Wednesday, and Tuesday in the evening only, and this schedule has worked really well for our family. I worked incredibly hard to build my clientele over the past 4-5 years and didn’t want to sacrifice everything I worked so hard to build when we had our daughter a year and a half ago. I knew that if I stopped working I’d have to start all over when our kids were school age, so my husband and I decided I’d work a few days a week. Although, we are super fortunate because while I am away, either my mom or mother-in-law are with our daughter.
But I tell you what, Tuesday, Thursday, Friday, Saturday, and Sunday I feel like a stay-at-home mom. Here are a few of the things that have helped me stay sane while taking care of a tiny human almost 100% of the time.
1. Get Dressed Up
I’m not talking about getting “dolled” up. Just make a point to shower, put on some nice clothes that aren’t yoga pants or sweats, do your hair, and put on a bit of makeup. I know there are days dedicated to chores and cleaning and this policy doesn’t always sense on those days, But I make a point to pull myself together at least 2-3 of the days when I am home with my daughter. It makes me feel more productive, confident (because let’s face it, there are days when I feel like I have no idea what I’m doing), and just happier overall.
2. Get Out of the House
It does a world of good to get out of the house and get some fresh air once in a while. I know in the summer this is easier to do because the weather is better, but even if it’s just roaming the aisles at Target or wondering the mall, get out and change up your scenery. It’s so easy as a stay-at-home mom to just focus on prepping for the next meal, or cleaning up the latest mess. That gets mundane SO fast. There are so many days where I just take my daughter to Target, even with no intention of buying anything, just to switch up our routine.
3. Make Time for Yourself
You are a priority! If the mom of the family is empty and has nothing to give, the house won’t run. We need to take time to refill our own cups so we are refreshed and can give 100% to our families. Whether this means taking time each day to workout, taking a relaxing bath with a glass of wine, or reading and reflecting on God’s word, it is so important to find time each day to yourself. Today I got to go shopping and get my hair done and it was so refreshing! Make yourself a priority!
4. Have Play Dates
Developing friendships with other moms will help build you up, and will give your children an opportunity to develop relationships with other kids. Play dates are kind of a two-for-one. You get to chat with another/other moms who are experiencing the same things and create a support system. All while your kids are learning to socialize and have fun. Zoo dates, pool time, or just meeting at someone’s house for a cup of coffee can be amazing!
5. Remember That You Are Enough
Stay-at-home moms sacrifice so much to stay home with their kids. They often give up careers or aren’t using college degrees that they worked so hard for, and it is easy to fall into a trap of thinking that you aren’t contributing enough, especially financially. Just remember, the chores and things you stay home to do cost money otherwise. Daycare, laundry service, meal prep, etc. are expensive. And as moms, raising our kids is the biggest achievement of our lives and a huge honor, and not something to be taken lightly. It’s a full time job, and someones gotta do it. You are enough. And your role is important. Remember that, and own it!